Not every tragedy is somebody’s fault.
Accidents happen, lives are ruined, people die. . . .so it must be somebody’s fault.
OK, often it is. Sometimes it isn’t.
Bitterness is a nasty taste to live with, and it’s sad when unhappy people feel they must find someone to blame:
– when a scapegoat must be found for the interruption of their life, the loss of their dreams, the death of their loved one. . .
– when someone must be called to account before the grieving can find “closure”.
Let me emphasise, I’m not talking here about crime or criminal negligence, or about due justice – one of civilisation’s necessary foundations. ..I’m talking about revenge.
Revenge is ugly, whatever name you give it. ..It narrows thinking. ..It warps reason.
“Somebody” shouldn’t have swatted the butterfly whose wings triggered a tornado (with apologies to Edward Lorenz).
“Somebody” should have realised that posting a photo of over-ordered toilet roll would trigger panic buying. ..(Really?)
“Somebody” should have had foresight to pull down the blind before the bird flew into the window and shattered the glass that speared the dog that bit the cat that scratched the baby that festered and festered and festered inside. . .
There must be somebody I can blame. ..Someone I can persecute.
One day it might be you. . .
– your roof tile that falls on a passer-by; your indigestion that infects the party with norovirus; your stroke that strikes while you’re driving;
you, who doesn’t know about that child’s allergy and leaves peanuts lying around; .you, who has to make a decision in the absence of information.
I don’t know what to expect when I die, but I am fairly confident that I will be past caring who gets blamed, punished, or prosecuted as a result.
If I am looking down (which I doubt) I will be more concerned to see that those I love are picking themselves up and moving on with their lives.
Sometimes shit happens.
It’s too easy to judge situations from a distance, with few facts and the benefit of hindsight. .And no comeback when you get it wrong.
Please try not to.